Helping Insecure Littles

• Take a lot of pictures with your Little - This one is basically meant to show your Little that they are beautiful and you do enjoy looking at them. You value your time with them. You can even set a picture of you both, or just them, as your phone wallpaper. I know this one made me feel great when my Caregiver did it

• Stare at your Little while smiling. When they ask why, tell them they’re just so beautiful - This one is nice because it isn’t something we expect. Do it when just watching a movie, walking through a park, or any other normal activity. Not only does it make most of us feel great when this happens, but it makes us blush and get embarrassed!

• If they feel insecure about being needy, remind them that YOU need them - Here is another frequent problem with Littles. We’re so focused on how needy we are for our Caregivers, that sometimes we forget how much our Caregivers need us. How much they need to be wanted. All that our neediness shows them is how important they are to us and how much we rely on them. Sure, for Submissive personalities this seems scary to hold so much responsibility, but for Dominants, it’s what they need. So never feel bad for being needy. Never feel bad for being a submissive. Never feel bad for being a Little.

• Whenever they do something to make you proud, write it down somewhere they can always see it - Sometimes, seeing your accomplishments feels great because we don’t instinctively remember those ones when we are feeling down. We think of all our failures. To have something we can constantly see instead of just hear words with no proof, means a lot more because it’s undeniable. Or you can remind them specifically of things that have done to make you proud. For example, won a contest, be in a play, draw pretty art, pushed through a tough time, or did something even though they were scared to do it. Don’t let the bad thoughts in their head drown out all the wonderful things they’ve done.

• Don’t make rules that your Little can’t say negative things. Let them know they can be open about any feeling to you - I used to have the rule where I wasn’t allowed to say anything bad about myself and I’ve often see a lot of other Littles who have this rule. After a few weeks of having it, my Caregiver realized that just because I didn’t say it, didn’t mean I wasn’t thinking it. After he revoked that rule, he explained that he never wants me to feel like I can’t tell him all my feelings, including my negative one. If I was going to have them anyway, He wanted to know so he could do his best to help me get rid of them instead of dealing with them myself. So, if you have this rule, talk to each other and make sure this is the best thing for you both. If it is, great! That’s what works for you! If it isn’t, change it and think of a better way to handle this situation.

• Never say anything negative to an insecure Little. They will never forget it - Littles can be very sensitive, we all know that, right? Sure, they can be as tough as nails sometimes, but if someone we love and care about says something negative to us, it hurts like hell. If humiliation is something you both enjoy in your relationship, then obviously that's something you both agreed on. But for a Caregiver to say something mean or rude out of pure anger, it’s dangerous to the relationship. I know Caregivers are only human and humans make those mistakes, I’m just warning Caregivers to do your best to control your anger and your tongue. And if you do hurt your Little’s feelings by saying negative things, calm down first, then apologize and explain yourself to them. Explain that when people get mad they say things they don’t mean.